The Myth of Independence

In North American society we tend to idealize the ability to be independent. From a very young age we are taught to take pride in that which we can accomplish by ourselves. As we grow older our rights of passage such as our first car or our own place seem to be centered on making us more and more self-sufficient. Having our own car means that we are no longer reliant on public transit and our own place often signifies social and emotional as well as financial independence from parents. If one is not completely self-reliant by adulthood it is often mistakenly assumed that there is something “wrong” with them. Further, many live by the motto why go to the store or restaurant when you can do it yourself at home. Hence the market is filled with industrial home office and food prep gadgets. 

Somehow the concept of dependence has been mistakenly equated with inadequacy. Unfortunately, contrary to popular illusion whether you identify as having a disability or not, none of us are entirely independent from others. For example if you are capable of fulfilling activities of daily living that does not mean that you are capable of preforming administrative tasks well. Likewise if you are capable of grocery shopping independently that does not mean you are capable of growing your own food. I do not mean to suggest that personal achievements should not be celebrated or that there isn't something wonderful about in-home cappuccino makers. It is quite obvious that we all need each other and there is a beauty in this. Even Jesus who was and is all-powerful chose to call on the Father in prayer and work through his community, the disciples, to accomplish his plan. The key to remember is that in this life you are not gifted in every way, but rather you are specifically designed for the task that God has in mind for you. 

Think of the ways in which you need help today. Acknowledge how the work of others allows you to accomplish your role in His plan and thank the Lord for orchestrating your workplace and communities in this way.

 

By Chantal Huinink